Is He the One? | Part 1

It’s a question that just about every girl, believer or not, will eventually ask herself. How do I know if this is the guy that I am supposed to marry? Is he “The One”? Or is there someone else? What if I marry him and then meet someone else who is “The One”? What if I don’t marry him and I never meet anyone else? What if there isn’t just “one”? What if there isn’t anyone out there for me? What if I’m doomed to be single forever?

I’ve heard John MacArthur and John Piper both address this issue, because seemingly it’s something that a lot of us are concerned about. If you haven’t already, I would really recommend you check out John MacArthur’s video on Taking the Mystery Out of Knowing God’s Will. It is really a lot simpler than we make it out to be. We make it such a stressful and worrisome problem, when in fact God has spelled out His will for us in His Word. It is a longer video, but well worth it. You must watch it!

Back to the question of knowing to whom, if, when, and where marriage is to take place. I’m no expert. I’m not married. But I do believe a few things:

1. God is first. I don’t think God plays games with us or that He is cruel. I think if you have that desire in you to be married and you are following His will, as John MacArthur says, “do what you want.” Paul makes it clear that it is better to be married if you can’t control yourself. 

“But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” – 1 Corinthians 7:9

However, Paul also says it is best to not be married. 

“I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs—how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world—how he can please his wife— and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world—how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.” – 1 Corinthians 7:32-35

So if you desire to be married, then marry. But if you can control yourself, it is better to fully devote yourself to God. God is first, above any relationships we may have. Don’t spend all of your time focused on worrying about marriage. Instead, devote yourself to God, to serving Him.

More to come-

Part Two: How an ugly girl can be beautiful and what it means to be a set-apart girl 

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